Doctor Who quote

"The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and... bad things. The good things don't always soften the bad things, but vice versa, the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant. And we definitely added to his pile of good things."
The Doctor - Vincent and the Doctor

Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Day of Delirium #342 - Leaning In

This is a well timed reading. I hope it can be helpful to you too.

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"Few situations can be bettered
by going berserk."

~ Melody Beattie


It was the philosopher Michael Zimmerman who told the story of being a boy in school when someone passed him a pair of Chinese handcuffs, a seemingly innocent thimble-like casing with an opening at each end. It was passed to him without a word, and, of course, through curiosity, he slipped his left forefinger in one end and then his right in the other.

Mysteriously, what made them handcuffs was that the more you tried to pull your fingers out, the tighter they held you. Feeling caught, he panicked and pulled harder. The small cuffs tightened. But suddenly, it occurred to him to try the opposite, and as he leaned his fingers into the problem, the small casing slackened and he could gently and slowly work his fingers free.

So many times in life our pulling in panic only handcuffs us more tightly. In this small moment, the philosopher as a boy reveals to us the paradox that underscores all courage: that leaning into what is gripping us will allow us to work our way free.

  • Sit quietly, and bring to mind a situation you feel stuck in or a position you are being stubborn about.
  • As you breathe, try to relax your self-protection so you can lean into the situation slightly.
  • Note how this feels. Note if the energy around the situation loosens.

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The Book of Awakening ~ Mark Nepo 

Saturday, September 17, 2016

Day of Delirium #341 - Love is Love

Today is the day.

My best friend's wedding.

I am beyond grateful that he was afforded the honor of being able to marry his partner and love of his life.

It will be a beautiful day celebrating Family, Friends, Love and Tradition.

Friday, September 9, 2016

Day of Delirium #340 - You Know Too Much

Two scientists traveled halfway round the world to ask a Hindu sage what he thought about their theories. When they arrived, he kindly brought them into his garden and poured them tea. Though the two small cups were full, the sage kept pouring. Tea kept overflowing and the scientists politely but awkwardly said, "Your holiness, the cups can hold no more." The sage stopped pouring and said, "Your minds are like the cups. You know too much. Empty your minds and come back. Then we'll talk."

~ Leroy Little Bear


Knowing everyone's birthday is not the same as feeling the wonder of birth. Nor is being accomplished in many positions of lovemaking the same as being passionate. It was the great Canadian scholar Northrup Frye who pointed out that understanding the principles of aerodynamics has nothing to do with the experience of flying.

If at times you feel numb or distanced from the essence of what you know, perhaps your mind, like the sage's teacup, is too full. Perhaps, like a bowl too full of fish, your deepest thoughts have no room to move. Perhaps we all need from time to time to dump out all that doesn't stick. To let God like a great wind rim our head like an empty bowl.

Information is not wisdom. The mind, while a great and irreplaceable tool, can store instead of feel, can sort instead of understand, can, like a beaver, build a dam of everything precious. If you cannot speak when your mouth is stuffed with unchewed food, how can you think clearly if your mind is stuffed with undigested information?

But how do we empty the mind? By not overthinking. By not storing or sorting. By not replaying fears or dreams or doubts or praise. By choosing the most important thing on our endless list of things to do and doing it fully after tearing up the list.

All the wisdom traditions say to be still - that the stillness will bore holes in our useless knowing. But how do we begin? Every time you find yourself sorting life in your head, stop and notice what the brightest spot of light around you is touching. After a week of this, make a deal with yourself: trade five facts about how to live for one hour of unplanned living. Then have some tea.

  • If your mind were a suitcase and could only hold five things, what would they be?
  • When experiencing something troublesome, how many times do you go over it in your mind? Why? What would happen if you only went over it once?
  • When going to sleep, does your mind sort and file and replay information?
  • When waking, does your mind more easily experience what's before you?
  • If so, try to give life to the sensation of waking twice during your day.
  • Bring only one thing from your suitcase with you today. Leave the suitcase home.

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The Book of Awakening ~ Mark Nepo