I do not intend this post to be sad or depressing but I don't want to let this day pass without acknowledging it.
My father was an amazing person. He was one of the most open minded and open hearted people I have ever known. He taught me all I know about accepting people no matter what. No matter what color you are, what orientation you are, what religion you are, whatever you are we are all human and need to respect each other.
I never knew my father to say a bad word about another person and he was the first to defend anyone who required it. He always fully supported my sister and myself in anything we chose. He only ever wanted us to be happy.
He was an avid fisherman, he loved sports, he loved movies, he loved to read, he loved to help others and most of us he loved his family. There was never a time that I didn't know that my father loved me. We definitely were tough on each other but it was just our way of showing our love for each other. I feel blessed to have known my father and I will forever be indebted to him for raising me to be who I am and for loving me for who I became.
I will miss him until the day that I see him again if that is what is to happen and I will continue to live my life to make him proud.
One of the saddest things about my father not being here now is that I know he would have loved the whole Twilight hoopla. He would have read the books to see what everyone was talking about. He would have watched movies so that he could discuss them with me. And he would have loved the whole internet sensation that was created and that I follow. He also would be so happy to know that I have made so many friends through the hoopla and how happy it all makes me.
I wish each of you could have known my father. He would have made you feel like the most important person he has ever met and you would walk away knowing you met someone that would stick with you the rest of your life. My father was an amazing person and the world is a little sadder without him in it.
Thank you for letting me share my thoughts about my father on this day.
This was the collage of my father for his funeral.
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WOW. Thank you so much for sharing that part of your life. I am blessed to have "stumbled" onto you and so many others that share this common bond of support, empowerment, and just plain comradery. I am sorry for your loss, and yet happy for your remembrances.
My Dad just died this past Jan.30th...leaving me officially orphaned, but I don't think I will full be able to process this reality for at least a few years.
If I may (i know i'm wordy and obnoxious), I'd like to quote one of my most adored poets.
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life...It goes on." ~ Robert Frost
Thanks for this post.
xoxo
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Dangrdafne, I've already just sent you an email but wanted to post on here too.
Thank you for your lovely post. Your father sounds like he would have loved anything that made you happy and I'm sure we all would have loved him. It is nice for us to see the collage too that was put together. He must be sorely missed by many and I'm glad you got to share him with us today.
Wow. Thanks for sharing about your father. He sounds like a wonderful man.
I hope your coping alright and I want you to know how lucky you are to have been blessed with such a loving father.
Mine is in another country and wont speak to me because I was born a girl - I know, ridiculous. Ive spent years trying to apologize for something I had no control over. Finally, Ive accepted myself and its his loss frankly. I now have a wonderful step-father who I call "Rab-Dad" and he would walk over firey coals for me now.
Again, I hope your ok. I know what its like to lose someone important and if you need to talk..Im here for you ;)
xxxx
Thank you Dangredafne for sharing your thoughts with us. I'm personally dreading the moment when I'll be left without one of the parents. I don't even want to think about that.
I too am sorry your father is not here with you.
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You were truely blessed with a wonderful father. Thanks for sharing. The loss does get easier to bear with time.
(((hugs))) Dangrdafne, hope the day passed ok for you.
@Poptarrt, how stupid of your father, you're right, it's totally his loss, he doesn't deserve you. I always wanted a daughter (want me to adopt you? ;o) ) but there's no way in the world that I would show my sons any less love because they're boys, that's not what being a parent is about. Glad you've got your Rab Dad now :o)
@ smartEpantz - I used those words "life goes on" when writing to twilightcupcake an email and they are very true. I am so sorry for your recent loss. I am forever grateful for all the wonderful memories I have. Just always remember the time you had with him and reflect on all the good memories.
@ twilightcupcake - He would have loved reading all your blogs, he really would have. I can hear him laughing and see him smiling.
@ Poptarrts - I am coping well, I was lucky that we had about 3 months knowing he might/would pass and I saw him every day until his last weekend. We made sure we closed up all our loose ends and said all that we wanted to and for that I am forever grateful. It made it much easier in the end. Basically Dangrmomma and I went through the grieving process while he was here so that when he passed, we were at acceptance stage for the most part and were ready along with him (he knew it was coming). I am so sorry that your biological father is an idiot. I know for a fact that my Dad would have adopted you in a second. I offer my thanks to your step dad for knowing what he has in you and accepting and loving you. He is a smart man.
@ Jelena - all I can say is my best friend and I always said we wouldn't know what we would do when our parents passed, well I figured it out first - you keep living - you keep living in honor of them, they wouldn't want you to stop and you shouldn't. There are days that is isn't easy but he didn't raise me to stop living just because he did. The only other advice I offer is to make sure you have no regrets with them or anyone. Always show your love and always clear the air.
@ TwitardedMom - Thank you for your kind words. It is easier each day and each year. Life does go on and mine will in honor of him.
@ Stan - thank you, the day went well. Dangrmomma and I spent it at a college wrestling tournament (my father was a huge fan and was a wrestler in his youth) that he would have been at if he were here. I thank you too for offering to adopt Poptarrts, you are a kind and loving soul and your children are blessed to have you, as are we.
Hey Dafs, I wish I had your father, actually I wish I had your mother too. I'm glad you had a happy relationship with your Dad, I wish I had known mine, kinda like Poptarrts I guess.
My Dad left our family when I was little I don't really remember him being around a lot and when I did see him it was few and far between. He didn't want my brother as he is slightly handicapped, physically not mentally (although the things I know about my bro it makes me wonder-he lives in america somewhere and we don't talk either) Anyhoo, I moved away from London when I was 10 and haven't seen him since and I haven't spoken to him since I was 16. He doesn't want anything to do with me,I have tried to find him and did track him down but he denied who he was and told me not to contact him again. I found an Aunt but they don't want me either. Their loss, I have 2 fantastic childrewn and he will never know them. My exes parents are fantastic grandparents and I'm glad my boys have them. My mother is an unhappy, vindictive woman who says I'm too like my Dad for my own good. No wonder I have issues with men-jeez.
I am a little bitter about it,although I should be over it, I only ever wanted to know him I never wanted anything else from him. I know he had cancer at one point but I don't know if he is alive or dead. You ought to have to have a license to be a parent! Its a priviledge not a chore...sorry Dafs I didn't mean to do a downer on this arghhhh, really sorry. I'm sure your wonderful Dad is looking down on you with pride and love sweetheart xxx
@ Nibbles - please do not apologize for anything. I am glad that you (all of you) feel you can share your personal stories here. I am sorry that your biological parents are not in your life in the way you would like. It is completely their loss and a shame for them. Please know that we love you and are grateful for your presence every day.
@Dangrdafne...This post gave me chills because your Dad sounds sooo much like my Papa (grandpa/Mom's Dad) He passed away in 03'. He was so open, honest, tolerant and warm. I know he would have read Twilight. He was a journalist, first in London, then when he moved to the US. I know he would have been fascinated by the Twilight phenomenon...and he would have listened to me talk about it all day and night.
I think it's great that you shared this with all of us. Your Dad seemed like an amazing individual. May he rest in peace.
xoxo
wow - what a post!
i think it's a special (and wonderful) way to honor the memory of your father--imagining how he would be responding to twilight, all the hoopla, and the happiness and friends your involvement in the twidom has brought you... it is sad to lose someone so close, but it sounds like you are keeping his spirit close to your heart.
@ Twired Jen - I am glad my post brought you good memories of someone from your life. My Dad was pretty amazing and I am sure he is busy fishing all the good trout streams in heaven :)
@ Snarkier - My Dad's spirit is always with me. Ohh he would have just loved Twitarded and Twilight and the whole FFOORRKKSS trip - in fact it wouldn't surprise me if he would have wanted to go along :) He was a cool Dad and always wanted to be a part of what was cool at the time.
Oh my. Now I am crying. I am so close to both of my parents, but I am a daddy's girl. Big time. We have never taken one day for granted that we have with each other, but when he had double bypass surgery a few years ago, that sentiment was brought home even more.
What an amazing tribute to an amazing dad. Thank you for sharing this piece of your heart with us.
XXXOOO
Lisa
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